“…A man and a woman cannot live together without having against each other a kind of everlasting joke. Each has discovered that the other is a fool, but a great fool. This largeness, this grossness and gorgeousness of folly is the thing which we all find about those with whom we are in intimate contact; and it is the one enduring basis of affection, and even of respect.”—G. K. Chesterton - as told and discussed in an interesting Op-Ed by David Brooks on “Suffering fools gladly” (via tosin)
"The truth is that ‘Real love’ is not the Romantic high and Adrenaline and Dopamine rush we get on Valentine’s Day (although that is nice). Real and true love is built over years. It is created by the little acts of love and care we show daily to our spouse. It’s demonstrated in the nice compliment here, the little text there, a helpful hand, a generous act, time sacrificed to be together and a thoughtful gift. These are the “Little things that make a big difference in a marriage and create a sustained sense of in love-ness with your partner in your marriage’. Remember – true love is not a hundred meter dash, it is a marathon.”
Very salient reminder of what it really means to fall/stand in love.
Very good read on being more innovative, aka creative:
"Your brain is wired to keep you alive"
“Innovation is about change….doing something different than you did previously….about trying something that you have not done before…”
The brain wants pains solved first.…innovation is not just about creating something new and different. It should solve a problem that people have.
Expertise is the enemy of innovation…don’t stop with the obvious answers. Keep pushing until you are out of ideas and then still push forward. Ask “who else has solved a problem like this?”
The brain wants solutions, not problems…however, in the world of innovation, the “problem” is actually more important.Ask better questions.
The brain craves commonality. Work with people who are not like you.
The brain sees what it believes. Avoid getting wed to your ideas by getting someone to play devil’s advocate. Refine your solution based on numerous perspectives, not just your own biases.
Your brain only sees a fraction of reality…opportunities are limited to your frame of reference. Sometimes you need to purposefully retrain the brain. Do/read/learn about things that are unrelated to your work. It opens up opportunities in places one would not have thought to look..
The brain [at times] thinks too much. Quiet that part of the brain through meditation, yoga, showering or any other relaxing activity.
"Listen to the sound of leadership; it is you being eloquent, powerful, convincing, compelling, and forceful.”
“Leading through persuasion is a form of communicating that must be learned. In fact, it has to be learned, for if you can’t persuade or convince others, you cannot lead.”
"You are not trying to sway people against their will but to offer them a chance to see things anew."
"When your goal is to have more impact, when the force of your presentation will alter things, you have to deliver your message with such a high degree of fervor that it overwhelms your audience’s resistance."
… a list of tools that…leaders use to carry the flame:
Threats or consequences - a common technique for taking the lead is to be threatening; to ramp up the urgency of what’s at stake so the laggards get in line.
Passion, pathos - Speaking with passion born of your own authentic experience and belief is always persuasive
Humor, wit - You don’t always have to heavy up on earnestness just to prove you care. You can use humor or a surprise to reveal a fresh perspective.
Imperfection - An impassioned but imperfect speech, which shows you care too much to hide flaws, is far more compelling.
Surprise - Every chance you get, introduce the unexpected, an element of surprise.
Wonder - Set as your goal (for a meeting, phone call, or presentation) that you will instill wonder to such a degree that your listeners respond, “Hey, I never thought of it that way.”
"Speaking passionately from the very center of who you are is compelling, forceful, persuasive: that’s what leadership sounds like."
There are times in this life when one of these 9 statements apply to each one of us. So let them now be reminders that Minister to us…..
"Moments In Life"
There are moments in life when you miss someone so much that you just want to pick them from your dreams and hug them for real! So cherish them while they are with you.
When the door of happiness closes, another opens; but often times we look so long at the closed door that we don’t see the one which has been opened for us.
Don’t go for looks; they can deceive. Don’t go for wealth; even that fades away. Go for someone who makes you smile, because it takes only a smile to make a dark day seem bright. Find the one that makes your heart smile.
Dream what you want to dream; go where you want to go; be what you want to be, because you have only one life and one chance to do all the things you want to do.
May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human and enough hope to make you happy.
The happiest of people don’t necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way.
The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past; you can’t go forward in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.
When you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling. So live your life so at the end, you’re the one who is smiling and everyone around you is crying.
Don’t count the years-count the memories…….Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take; but by the moments that take our breath away!
“”…when you’ve worked hard, and done well, and walked through that doorway of opportunity…you do not slam it shut behind you…you reach back, and you give other folks the same chances that helped you succeed.”— Michelle Obama
Very good article and after-thought review of educated Nigerians/Africans in the diaspora. The last section of the article “Is higher learning helping Africa?" really brings some thought provoking questions to mind.
What are your opinions? Do you agree or disagree? What steps are needed for positive change?
"…when I have my interview with God at the end of my life, he is not going to ask to show me how high I went in any body’s org chart or how much money I left behind in the bank when I die. But rather he is going to say ‘o Clay, I put you in that circumstance now can we talk about the individual people whose lives you help to become better people because you worked with them or they were members of your family or you just me them and they needed your help’….’lets talk about the individual people whose lives you blessed because you used the talents I gave you to help them’…"
"….and I realized that that’s the way God will measure my life, is the individual people whose lives I blessed…"
"…succeed at what your succeeding at, but that isn’t going to be the measure of your life. God doesn’t count, He doesn’t aggregate, and He’s just going to asses you on the basis of how well you helped other people be better people…."
“…be successful in the way that God will measure success…”
Apple is building the nation’s largest end user–owned, onsite solar array on the land surrounding the data center. When completed, this 100-acre, 20-megawatt facility will supply 42 million kWh of clean, renewable energy annually.
Apple is building a fuel cell installation that, when online later in 2012, will be the largest non-utility fuel cell installation operating anywhere in the country. This 5-megawatt facility, located directly adjacent to the data center, will be powered by 100 percent biogas, and provide more than 40 million kWh of 24x7 base load renewable energy annually.